Taking over Saturday - Real bands save fans

H-H-HEEELLOOO so today is the 4th Saturday of the month, which means…TAKING OVER SATURDAY!

Enjoy today’s guest blogger :)

 

Hey Guys :)

I’m not Bobi who usually writes the blog. 

My Name is Andji and I’m Bobis cousin. 

Bobi asked me to write something for her Blog.

By the way.. I love Bobis Blog ,"Life with me"

It describes some situations in my life and I think in your lives.

Okay that enough about me. :)

Today’s blogpost will be about Boybands.

There is a sentence that describes every fangirls/boys life.

,,I know they love me eventhough they don’t know me. I know”

Some people laugh at me because I love One Direction and 5 Seconds of Summer. I don’t know why.. I mean they also love something regardless whether it is football, dancing or something else.

And I also wonder when People say that they are gay. Let’s say they are gay.. it would mean thousands of girls are crazy about a few gay guys and not about you?!  Take it! (-Eleanor Calder)

I think it’s important for young girls or women  to have something you can hold on in your life. Something not everyone has or not your friend or parents.

Idols, whether it is a band, a single singer or something else,  can bring people together.

because of their music you can sometimes find back together with a "lost" friend or a family member you never talked to a lot.

Maybe the whole friendships who’ve been

 caused by the own idols will last a life time.

You never know and never say never :)

If you find someone who isn’t fake and with who you can fangirl over the time and laugh about the same things, you can call yourself blessed.

They save lives. They probably don’t know it but it’s in their music.  It doesn’t matter in what situation you are now, you’ll find your perfect song which will fit the situation. And it also doesn’t matter how you’re feeling now. If you feel alone, lost or whatever you’ll find a perfect song and you will think it is just written for you. And just the thought makes you happy.

Some people who aren’t fans won’t understand or comprehend it. But it is.

Standing outsides will probably wonder why do ‘’ the band obsessed girls’’ always scream when a song comes on TV, whether it is just the background music.

Ladies and Gentmen...THIS IS FANGIRLING!

I think it’s not a phase. Even when bands break up, the guys go their own ways and the fandome ends, everybody will remind this time. The time you were obsessed with ,,just a band’’, the time you slept out of areas just to get inside and be in the 1^st row to see the boys you love.

Some Fans never saw them in real or talk to them, but they love them more than everything. They are always there for somebody when someone else bullies them.

Never leave a fandom just because someone told you to. :)

So... I hope you guys have enjoyed my blog post on bobis blog. If not, I’m sorryL

I’ve done my best for this and don’t judge me if there are any mistakes. I’m not English. 

What I realized about Diets and losing weight

Helloooo you!

I know today is the third Saturday of September and yes I said the second Saturday will be a cooking day and this post may be a food related

BUT

I kind of realized that I dont even eat properly, like I sometimes don't even have three meals a day..

So yeah I guess I was too optimistic the day that I thought to make food every second Saturday haha

What I thought doing or posting every second Saturday?

I don't know yet but I feel like I could talk about something health or food related...we'll see.

So the last week was a week full of stress and mood swings and yeah also thoughts about losing weight and dieting.

But a special person, I know you're reading this so again thank you!, made me realize something.

I feel like a lot women. 

I'm not happy with my body.

But instead of starting a diet and lose as much weight as I can...I want to try to actually eat properly.

Last week I understood that I don't drink enough at all.

It took me two days to drink one litre of water...

AND like I said before, I don't even have three meals.

I don't breakfast which is really unhealthy and sometimes I just forget to eat.

So instead of dieting and being unhappy because you have to quit food you may like or enjoy,

I will try to be healthier.

I think it will not just help my body, call me weird but I really think eating healthy can help your soul.

If you have enough energy, and you're hydrated...that sounded smart, you will be happier and less stressed.

So yeah, whoever is starting a diet or actually doing one...please think about this post,

Plus..if we all don't diet and we all have a bit more weight...it will be normal if you get what I mean..

Probably not but oh well.

I know this post wasn't a recipe but it was at least food related.

Sorry for dissapointing you but I once almost burnt our kitchen and now that we moved house...I don't think my mother would let me even try to cook something again hahaha

I hope you have a nice and beautiful week 

The sad story of the waiters

BOOM! SURPRISE! Today is not cooking Saturday, it's Surprise Saturday.
Guess you didn't see that coming.
Are you surprised? I bet you are.

So now let's get back to the serious face because this post means a lot to me.
I hope you enjoy reading and appreciate your beautiful life more after this post.
P.s Have a wonderful week my friend :)

At the beginning of August I got the pleasure to join my grandmother on a cruise around Norway.
On this cruise were a lot of waiters from India and the philippines.

Everytime for Dinner, each family got their own table where they’ve eaten every evening with the same waiters serving them.
The table I was sitting at had the perfect view on every waiter and his “table” where he organized his work.
Some of them seemed very sympathetic and whenever you looked at them they smiled.
Others seemed really concentrated, like my waiters.

The last evening I decided to stay after dinner and talk to them.
I asked my waiter for how long he was already working as a waiter and the answer was nine months.
When I asked him if he liked he said no.
He told me he absolutely hated it but there was no other option for him.
He was a 29 years old man. Married with two kids at the age of nine and six.

I asked the other waiters if they liked it.
Some of them did some of them didn’t.

Honestly I had to control myself to not start crying.
They work on these cruises for nine months straight until they get the chance to fly home for two months until they have to get back on the cruise.
Every single one of them was married.

One of them was 40 years old and had an 18 years old son.
He was working on the cruise for 14 years now and he loved it.

He said who else would get the chance to see the whole world?
I guess that’s true.

Another one told me they earn 500€ in a month.
That’s nothing for all the effort they have to put in.

I stayed talking to my waiter and asked him about his normal day on a cruise.
He wakes up at 6:00AM and starts working because he needs to prepare the restaurant for breakfast.
Then he needs to serve and clean while that.
After breakfast he needs to clean all up and prepare everything for lunch.
Same serving while that and cleaning after.
Between that, he sometimes gets a little break where he normally does paper work.

And then, there’s dinner.
There are two dinner times on the cruise so he works straight through until 11:45PM.
After that he goes to bed.

This is how his day looks like for nine months.
He said sometimes but really rare they get a day off.
And for what?
500€ in a month.
Before saying goodbye he told me he could see in my eyes how shocked and heartbroken I was.
He said it’s okay and that I don’t have to worry about any of them. They’re all doing fine.
But in my eyes it’s not okay.

And I told him that I really wish he gets another option and that he gets the chance to work in his country so he can be with his wife and his kids.
I still often think about the waiters.

Now that I’ve seen their life…and still they are so happy and full of positive thoughts.
We should be happy and apreciate everything we have in life.
I feel like this gets lost more and more nowadays.

How to: Deal with sadness and madness

Sometimes you might feel like the rollercoster of your life doesn’t go up.
No..it goes down.

But why?
And what are you supposed to do when that happens?
How do you have to deal with it and how do you normally deal with it?

Again all I will tell you in this blog…is not more or less than the things and situations that I have experienced.

As the title of this post I’ll try or attempt to explain how I deal with my sadness and madness and how I should deal with it to get out of these moods.

Here’s an example, so you can understand my actions and reactions better.

Take a bottle.
The bottle stands for yourself and your soul.
Now take water.
The water stands for negative memories or emotions.

Now take a bit of water every now and then and put it in the bottle.

Of course nothing will happen.
The bottle is still the same.
You take the same amount of water every time you put it in the bottle…everytime you put water in the bottle it gets closer to be full.
But you will come to a point where no more water will fit.

That’s the point where you’ve had enough.

Now there are two ways on how I react to this full bottle of water.
Either I break or I explode.

What happens when I break?
Well…I start crying and all I want is to be alone.

And when I explode?
I think this one is self-explaining…
I start running away from everything or start an argue without any reason because the bottle is still full and there is no more space for any more water.

Why did I choose this example?
It shows that no matter what it is to fill the bottle up…if it’s a little unimportant thing like an argue with a friend..the bottle is full and this is the point where all the emotions come up again.

What is the best way to deal with this?

Well in my eyes, there is no other way than just let go.
Take the time you need. Alone.
Listen to music and if you want and if it helps, cry.
When I was younger my parents used to tell me that crying doesn’t help.
That’s wrong.
All these different emotions are just too much to handle.
And it feels good to just let go.

But still…I didn’t reach the point of knowing how to get over a full bottle and how to solve that problem. Probably the answer to that is..don’t let everything get close to your heart. 

If something hurts your feelings or someone makes you angry or mad…try to remember things, people or memories that used to make you happy.

Think of the good things in life and try to keep these positive thoughts in your head.

I know it’s not easy since I have to deal with these emotions almost every day.
But I try my best to change this and to keep positive thoughts.

A new beginning with a new concept

Sorry for not posting in a while..again..but I was on holiday and yeah the blog wasn't the first thing that came up to my mind when I found wifi somewhere.

BUT

I did think about my blog alot and I came to the decision to change some things.

In the last months I realized that it's not easy to post daily as I'm not always in the mood to write or I haven't got time.

Also, I think quality stands over quantity..so all I want is to write good blogposts you will enjoy.

That's why I need to change something.

I decided to post every Saturday.

But you won't get any random posts every Saturday.

I decided that each Saturday will get a topic.

So Saturday No.1: How to: ...!

Every first Saturday in the month will be a "How to:"-post.
As my "How to: Be happy!" 

With these posts, I'm not thinking of writing tutorials on how to do makeup or hair..I mean I can do that aswell but my first thought on this topic is more about giving advices..well I'll attempt to.

Saturday No.2: Cooking Day!

I thought that I'd try to share a recipe with you.

Whether I'll cook or bake or whatever I'll be making.
Okay this one is kind of random I agree..

Saturday No.3: Surprise Saturday!

The third Saturday in the month will be a surprise day.
So I will write and post about anything.
It can be any deep thought, a travel post, whatever comes up to my mind.

Saturday #4: Taking over Saturday!

So I may have mentioned that I wanted to let others write a post for my blog.

I really like the idea of sharing ideas, experiences and advices.

That's why I will try to find people (already found them but they couldn't be bothered to actually start writing)

and let them be a kind of a "guest-blogger"

That's it for today.

Next post will go up this Saturday and it's a "How to:"

I hope you've had a nice summer by the way. (: